what do you think?

You are only poor if you don’t have a TV or Astro

According to the NST, the Welfare Department says if you have a TV or Astro, then you do not qualify for government aid since you are not “hardcore poor”. The department bars the disabled from getting welfare aid if they have Astro or a television set at home. The rule applies even if one lives in someone else's house, temporarily or otherwise. In one case, a disabled 40-year-old, paralysed from the neck downwards, who lives with her partly-paralysed mother, was afraid of getting a TV and Astro connection after being warned by a welfare officer that they would cut aid to them if she did so.

This is the first time I have heard that in Bolehland having a TV is considered to be “rich”. Nevermind that a new small TV nowadays cost less than RM200. You can also get a second hand one for free in some charity shops. In the case of the disabled, what do the authorities in Bolehland want them to do? Sit around and stare at the wall all day long? The answer is “yes” because if they stare at a TV, they are no longer poor.

What is your say??

Izit true??

Some people like to be frank, some like cliches; some like it hot, some like it shaken n not stirred. So, based on some spur-of-the-moment unfounded observation, this is what I came to notice when dealing with the opposite sex....

NINE WORDS WOMEN USE
(1) Fine: This is the word women use to end
an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.
(2) Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed,
this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just
been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.
(3) Nothing: This is the calm before the
storm. This means something and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin
with nothing usually end in fine.
(4) Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission.
Don't Do It!
(5) Loud Sigh: This is actually a word, but
is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she
thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here
and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of
nothing.)
(6) That's Okay: This is one of the most
dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to
think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.
(7) Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not
question, or faint. Just say you're welcome. (I want to add in a clause here -
This is true, unless she says 'Thanks a lot' - that is PURE sarcasm and she is
not thanking you at all. DO NOT say 'you're welcome'; that will bring on a
'whatever').
(8) Whatever: Is a woman's way of saying
s***w YOU!
(9) Don't worry about it, I got it: Another
dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do
several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man
asking 'What's wrong?' For the woman's response refer to # 3.



* Send this to the men you know to warn them about arguments they can
avoid if they remember the terminology.

So, what say you???

Warming up...

A week has passed since I'm back in business although the cycle has not really warmed up yet. Managing human resource is not as easy as managing lifeless stock; students to be reminded, timetable to be readjusted, classes to be monitored, reports to be drafted, prepared n written n etc. The first day of school saw an official from DEO who came to observe the running of the 1st day of school. Who in their right mind would suggest an observer to come on the 1st day to carry out the observation?? Even Uni students need the refresher's week, what more with the school-going children??

Friday came in a hurry; seemed like nothing much has been accomplished. Well, at least I still have sometime in the coming weeks to continue with the unfinished business (hopefully!!). WHY?? cos at 6.20 pm, I received a phone call informing me that a neighbour had passed away that evening. I accepted the fact that we shall 'go' when the time has come but in this case, the deceased was about 43 years old... That made me think, do I really have all the time until my retirement day in 2029 to do what I'm suppose to do or will I only have a few more years left??

This week I'm on duty and that means arriving by 7.15 a.m in school and with the numerous meetings to be held and sports practices, I'm prepared to go back at 5 or 6 pm but tomorrow (tuesday) I'll be going to Taiping for a meeting (8.30 am) and that means my colleague has to cover my slot. On wednesday, sports meeting is scheduled to be on and the disciplinary board meeting is on thursday. This saturday is supposed to be a school day because HM has decided to take the whole week for the Chinese New Year holiday but I won't be in cos the state co-cu unit has decided to carry forward the meeting from 23-25 Jan to 16-18 Jan, to be held in Pkln Hulu (again!)

As the year progresses, I'm hoping that I'll be able to handle things accordingly and at the same time still be able to maintain those handsome 'patches' up-there from thinning out...Any suggestion??

IQ n EQ

Salam n Greetings everybody,

It has been nearly 3 weeks since I last updated this site. been a bit busy n things were hectic until today. Tomorrow should be ok but still got appointment to send fauzan for his checkup. He's not well today, a bit of flu, flam n cough; hope its nothing serious cos things gonna be busier for the next 7 days; missus got meeting n I'll be on duty.
For the past one week, I was mentally squashed with the infos meant for the midlife teachers. 1 week undergoing the course has given me something to ponder about; am i gonna stay in the teaching profession or will i be in the management line? some of my colleagues have enrolled to do masters in education management n NPQH. I'm still undecided whether I should be taking the same path as theirs.
Listening to the lectures about the national policy and the policy makers' intention, everything seems to fit perfectly but experiencing the current situation, I have my doubts. Whether you are a reactive or proactive person, current infrastructures only help in certain ways. The rest would depend on the people who would be working at ground zero and with the current situation, I reserve my comment. I'm not trying to be pessimistic but I have my reservation.
Whatever it is, I hope I can do my best to make things work accordingly. IQ is needed to theoretically plan good things but EQ is needed so that the implementation wouldn't stress the workforce cos they are the ones who will actually be involved directly with the clients...
I beg to ponder...

Kawan, teman wanita, isteri sendiri & isteri orang

I'm always trying to understand why if we have to attend functions, men are likely to be there compared to women. I like to be rational, not too secular but at the same time, I'm not a pious Muslim either. I'm called to review what my buddy has posted about lukewarm responses from the womenfolk whenever there's a function organised. The excerpt below is taken from a book 'Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus' by john Gray.

SUAMI, ISTERI DAN KAWAN

Kerana soal emosi dan logik, saya cuba untuk memahami sesuatu.

Sering saya ketemu, isteri-isteri tidak begitu berminat atau komited lagi dengan persahabatan mereka. Biar pun mereka ada ramai best friends semasa anak dara, hingga tidur berkongsi bantal dan mimpi, namun selepas berkahwin dan beranak pinak, mereka tidak lagi serapat dulu. Tumpuan dan attachment mereka sangat tertumpu pada suami dan anak-anak.

“Kalau Yang nak gi kedai dengan kawan-kawan, do some shopping, Abe tak kisah pun. Take your time. I’ll mind the kids“, saya membuka tawaran kepada isteri.

Bukan apa, saya sering rasa bersalah kerana selalu terpaksa meninggalkan isteri. Mesyuarat, bekerja out station, bersukan, program jabatan dan agensi-agensi kerajaan yang lain dan macam-macam aktiviti luar, menyebabkan saya sering meninggalkan isteri dan anak-anak di rumah. Bukan bersuka-suka bercuti dan bercanda, tetapi tugas dan tanggungjawab yang menjadi punca.

Lantas, saya tidak keberatan jika isteri saya mahu mengambil sedikit ruang untuk beliau pergi menziarahi sahabat atau menghadiri kursus-kursus rasmi dan tidak rasmi. Bagi saya, itu adalah waktu untuk dia merasai sendiri bagaimana tanggungjawab terhadap profesion membuat dia terpaksa berjauhan tanpa saya. Tetapi lazimnya isteri saya lebih prefer untuk berada di rumah. Dan sebahagian besar sahabat yang saya temui, mengakui hal ini.

Mengapa hal ini berlaku?

Oleh kerana perempuan kuat pada emosi, maka emosinya terpilih untuk hanya disuburkan oleh suami tercinta dan anak-anak. Kepuasan pada mengisi keperluan emosi hanya boleh diperolehi dari insan yang diberikan emosi itu iaitu suami dan anak-anak. Tidak ada apa sangat yang hendak dicari di luar sana.

Namun bagi si suami, kehidupannya banyak dipengaruhi oleh rasional kerana itulah alat utama beliau berperanan sebagai pemimpin keluarga. Mungkin kerana itu, saya merasakan bahawa, si suami perlu kepada rakan berbincang. Sesekali suami perlu mendapatkan pandangan ketiga (MUNGKIN juga orang ketiga??). Dan kerana ini, seorang lelaki yang telah berkahwin, tetap menjaga hubungannya dengan rakan karib, kerana beliau perlu kepada input-input yang membantu beliau membuat keputusan… terutamanya ketika berkonflik dengan isteri dan keluarga.

Janganlah si isteri salah faham, dengan menyangkakan suami yang pergi kepada sahabat karib itu, telah membelakangkan dirinya. Lebih mengutamakan sahabat dari isteri sendiri. Lebih percaya kepada orang luar dari teman hidup yang dinikahinya.

Jangan begitu.

Suami pergi berjumpa dengan rakan karibnya dengan motif rasional. Mencari panduan dan penyelesaian. Sedangkan emosi, perasaan dan kasih sayangnya tetap teguh pada isteri dan anak-anak. Suami memerlukan rakan bukan untuk urusan emosi sebagaimana yang sering difikirkan oleh si isteri.

Emosi dan perasaan itu eksklusif dan hanya ada antara suami, isteri dan anak-anak. Namun keperluan mendapatkan input rasional, izinkan suami mencarinya dari seorang rakan, kerana hasil perbualan mereka, akan memulangkan kebaikannnya kepada kasih sayang antara suami, isteri dan anak-anak.

Wallahualam....